People are still able to surprise me. I thought I would only get support in this difficult and hard moments.
I was wrong. It turns out, that the administration of Złota 44 does not care about respecting its late residents.
The perfect place to say goodbye
I thought, that it would be a good idea to hold the wake after Oleg’s funeral right here, at Złota 44, in the leisure area, where different ceremonies, like e.g. baby showers and New Year’s Eve are held. It’s a special place where residents can meet up, on whose behalf Oleg tried to make this place better. I thought that no one would be bothered by an elegant, closed event and that it would not violate the privacy of the other residents.
I decided to make a reservation to be able to organize the wake. I went to the administration with the required written form. The manager declined even before reading the form. I was told, that due to the possibility, that there will be people from the media, I am not allowed to organize a farewell-event for my husband in the building at Złota 44. I don’t understand this. There are a lot of people living in this building, who are well acquainted with the media, their lives are connected to the media and nobody was bothered by it up till now. There were a lot of events held by the residents on the 8thfloor. I can’t comprehend the reasoning behind the decision. Oleg was a resident of Złota 44. This was his home and just like other residents, there should be a possibility to say goodbye to him here.
I planned a closed even, with a limited guestlist in a booked part of the 8thfloor. The presence of the media would in no way violate the residents’’ privacy and the right for their image protection. Everything was supposed to take place in the Club Room and would probably not take longer than 2 hours. I imagined a closed event, that involves only those, that want to take part in it. The administration thought about an event, that in no way matched what I imagined it would be.
The administration decided right then and there after I submitted the form, perhaps even right in the moment I submitted it. Nobody asked me how I envisioned the event, how it would look like. Nobody asked if I wanted the floor to be closed for short time. Nobody asked me if I would be able to cover the cost that this event would entail. Nobody asked If I talked with the other residents and if they don’t have anything against such an event. The decision came quick and was explicit: “we don’t allow it, because you will invite the media”.
I asked for a written reasoning behind this decision.